Date Night is something that we know we need to do with our spouse but it’s also one of the first things that gets dropped from busy, overwhelmed schedules. At Ideal Balance, we encourage clients to budget date night in with their finances and the calendar as one of their TOP priorities and we’re going to do the same for you! This particular line item should be added to your budget just as soon as all the basic needs & wants are met with your finances. It should also get plugged into your schedules priority-wise after work and before kids activities. Why? Here are 5 reasons you need date night!
1. You need to shake it up.
We know you’re busy. We know you’ve made commitments. However, you need to shake up what we “business” of life: the kids, the schedules, the house repairs, the bills. You need time that is just for fun, for play and just for you!
2. Put each other first!
By making date night a priority, you’re proving to your spouse that they come first and that they are important. This goes a long way in developing/maintaining trust and commitment in a relationship. It creates a sense of team or “we-ness” that you won’t get any other way. The National Marriage Report tells us that couples who do this are “markedly” happier and even have lower rates of divorce.
3. Melt the stress away
Everyone needs stress relief. Whether you’re busy with kids or just work and life, you need time to destress. Scheduling that time with the person you’ve chosen to partner with in life is a great way to relieve stress. Studies show the intimate conversation and emotional support that can happen at date night can help you destress.
4. Duh, it’ll improve your sex life.
Did you know studies show that the romance & intimacy in a relationship lasts less than two years for most couples? However, adding in date nights can increase intimacy and connection which will increase desire! Date Night is all about just the two of you-minus the stress and business of your busy life. That time is necessary to fuel the fire of desire.
If you’re local in Navarre, Florida, join us for our next Dream Date Night Event!
This move is a “fun” twist on the traditional push-up while also incorporating some amazing yoga-style stretches. This move works core & back & shoulders & triceps & a little chest!! It’s so good!
Start in forearm plank and then, as if someone is pulling you straight up to the ceiling by your tailbone, push your weight back to dolphin pose. Be careful not to allow your hips to drop or your shoulders to sag!
Ideal Balance is The Life Coaching Facility in Navarre, Florida that focuses on Fitness, Family & Finance. We help our clients create the discipline & habits they need to strip off what’s holding them back from living the life God created them to live. We work with clients in 1-on-1 sessions in person and virtually as well as in Small Groups in Personal Training sessions, workshops and other events. We’re on a mission to inject hope and empower our community one client at a time. Contact us if you’d like to find out more.
One of the thoughts you might have before hiring a coach is:
What can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?
We love that question because it means you’re really thinking this through!
Here’s the truth. You’re really awesome! We know that for a fact. We’re not doubting you or your ability to achieve great things.
What a coach can add to that ability, however, is substantial. A coach can help you go further faster. A coach helps you stay accountable and get results much faster than if you were to do it on your own. A coach provides encouragement and accountability that you’re probably not used to providing to yourself. A coach also brings outside perspective and tools that you don’t necessarily have at your disposal.
Just think about when you do this elsewhere in your life. You hire a personal trainer. Not because you can’t technically workout on your own, but because you know they will help you go further faster.
You might hire a bookkeeper or accountant even though you could probably do yourself if you tried really hard! However, their expertise and help will help you do it better and make sure things are done right.
You might hire someone to do your lawn or clean your house. Again, it’s not that you can’t do these things yourself. You know the desired outcome, however, and you may feel that it will get done the way you want it done only if you outsource it.
The same is true when it comes to managing your money, your nutrition, your goals and your habits.
A coach will help you do what you can’t seem to do yourself.
If you’re interested in testing this theory out, click below and get started with a free 15 minute coaching session!
We’ve heard it asked many times: What’s the difference between a life coach and a good friend? Well, a good friend is irreplaceable. And we’re not hear to doubt how awesome your good friends are.
However, unless your good friend has an established, step-by-step process for getting you results, shows up every week just for you no matter what’s going on in their lives, understood what is going on in your life and in your head, was trained to separate feelings from circumstances, can cut the time it will take to achieve goals, was never judgmental, always confidential, always made you the top priority, never allowed distractions, was trained to see all angles and find blind spots, and had tools to help you overcome stress, anxiety, procrastination, negative self-talk, get motivated and take action it’s not the same. Your friend would also need to have an established system for holding you accountable and overcoming obstacles- and that system would be their top priority and life’s work. Your friend would be specifically motivated to help you transform your finances, health, relationships, career and every other area of life you set goals in.
Listen, if you have friends like that, you’re winning at life!
If you have wonderful friends but they also have their own lives and that sort of coaching sounds like something you’d like to try out, schedule a free 15-minute coaching session today!
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Do you ever feel like you don’t own your stuff, your stuff owns you? That it owns your time, your energy, your peace? Yes, so often we exchange stuff for peace, peace over our finances, peace in our homes, peaces in our minds. We have too much stuff and too little time. That leaves us feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Then our stuff turns into clutter.
Then we are faced with the next problem: you can’t organize clutter. That’s because clutter is simply stuff that hasn’t been put away. And why doesn’t it get put away? For most of us, it’s because we haven’t assigned everything in our homes a home of it’s own. And, for most of us, the reason for that is we don’t have enough space to give everything in our homes a home. And, for most of us, the reason for that is we have too much stuff.
To make matters worse, with our busy schedules and piles of stuff, we delay making decisions about stuff we bring in our home or stuff that we might want to get out of our home. Those delayed decisions pile up in stuff. Of course, the fear of missing out is another part of the problem and a reason we acquire things.
Another part of the problem is we are often trying to please other people. We accept things, we hold onto things, we refuse to let things go not because we actually want these things. No, we think that not keeping a thing is somehow failing the person the thing is related to. But it’s not.
Are you connecting with this content? Then join us for our 21-Day Less is More Challenge! You’ll get coaching and a lovely workbook to help you minimize, then organize!
The solution to our problems is to arrive at the perfect amount of stuff we both want to keep and are capable of maintaining so that doing so is easy, quick and even joyful! In order to do that we must become more decisive and more confident in those decisions. In fact, this entire process will be a journey of you becoming better & more confident at making decisions when it comes to your stuff and eventually your life. The solution is simple: decide what to keep and give it a home.
These decisions will revolve around what to keep, not what to get rid of. These decisions will revolve around the kind of life you want to live, not the default mode you may have been living in. For example, if you only have one coffee cup, you only have one coffee cup to wash! Wait, what? Let’s say you have your very favorite coffee cup. You get it out each morning, it brings you joy, it’s your favorite black-fuel-dispensing device. You drink your coffee from it. Then you wash it and easily put it away–it took two seconds! Then, like magic, it’s right there waiting for you the next morning! That is in contrast to the sea of dishes, overloaded dishwasher and things-falling-out-of-them cabinets modern culture has helped us to create. When you make decisions during this journey, it’s for the end goal of breathing life into your home. You’re going to do things differently than you have before. You’re also going to practice gratitude and contentment, which is the cure for stuff and clutter.
Once you’ve decided all the lovely things you want to keep, you’ll also be giving everything in your home a home of it’s own.
Ideal Balance is The Life Coaching Facility in Navarre, Florida focused on Fitness, Family and Finance. We offer 1-on-1 coaching sessions in person and virtually as well as group coaching, small group personal training and workshops each month. We exist to inject hope and empower people to live the life God created them to live. If you’d like to find out more about working with us, please fill out the contact form below!
This week at Ideal Balance we’re talking about how important it is to date your spouse.
Before you get married you go out on dates, you have fun, you learn all about each other and make memories! It’s fun, hot & heavy, intimate, butterflies and more.
Then, shortly after the wedding bells ring, the business of life can start to creep in. The business of life includes the less fun stuff like bills, jobs, in-laws, carpools and so forth.
If you’re not careful, the business of life can take over. The fun starts to fade and it’s all business.
BUT! You guys were a thing before your marriage was a thing. You guys were a thing before your kids were a thing. You guys were a thing before your house payment was a thing! You were so fun, so cool, so cute together. You guys were a couple of awesome people.
So, we want to date our spouses on purpose. We want to pull that fun & fire back in by intentionally dating each other!
Imagine if everyone was part of a great, strong, fun & playful marriage. How would folks show up in life? What would be different about their moods, their work, their parenting, their everything? What would our communities be like?
Think about a time you’ve gone out, with your spouse, and friends for dinner or to an event. You’re there, you’re talking about music and telling jokes and having fun. How often, just as soon as you get back in the car is it right back to, “Okay who is picking up from sports tomorrow?” or “How are we going to pay to fix the water heater?”
That is the business of life. We don’t keep the fun and exciting part of ourselves alive for our partners. It’s so easy to slip into business partner mode. So, we have to be intentional and date our spouses.
When we’re at home, we’re parenting, choreing, do, do, doing! When we set the time and space, purposefully, then we are able to give the date our full, fun, present energy. We can physically and mentally separate ourselves from the roles we play at home and see each other in that lover’s light.
The DOs & DON’Ts of dating your spouse
Couples who play together stay together. If you’re having fun together, you’re building on that intial bond only the two of your share. As adults, it’s sometimes hard for us to be playful and have fun as a natural part of our day. But you can plan for it! Choose things besides just going to dinner: bowling, mini golf, canoeing, axe throwing, traveling. It can be whatever you guys decide, but make sure FUN is an element.
You have a lot of first together. Let’s keep it that way. We need more memories together, more things that glue us together and give us fun things to laugh and remember.
You need to put dating your spouse HIGH up on your budget & calendar priority list. That’s because your marriage is really important, isn’t it? It’s at least as important as dance lessons. Strong, happy marriages equal overall contentment, joy and fulfillment. They also give kiddos a great example to follow. Your marriage is a HIGH value item and dating each other is a way you prove you’re prioritizing your marriage.
When you first got together, you dreamt together. You dreamed about your future. So, have these discussions together. What does our vision for the future look like? Has it changed? Is it the same? Are we excited? Are we dreaming big?
Eat yummy food
Food can be very sensual, so let’s be sure whatever way we add that in to the date is fun and sensual! But! Be careful that whatever you do eat won’t hinder post-date activities. Be smart about food. You’re not going to all of this trouble just to be full and grumpy by the time you get home!
Obviously no phones, no kids, no nothing. You need to be able to fully focus on one another.
No business talk
You can set time aside for kids’ discipline, bills, appointments, honey-do lists another time. NONE of that during your date night.
So there you have it, the why and how of dating your spouse.
Our local Ideal Balance community has the perfect opportunity to date their spouse each month with our Dream Date Night event. This relaxing evening away from home without interruptions allows you to be 100% focused on each other and the life you want to create together. Each month we’ll have a different topic including marriage goals, financial goals, family goals and more. Add to that the beautiful patio setting with music, lights and beautiful, unique food and you’ve got a recipe for a FANTASTIC date night. This month we’re so excited to focus on the topic of Finance. Not the stressful, budget kind of focus but the fun, dreaming about your future, your dreams and your financial goals as a couple type of Finance. We’ll learn & dream together and we promise-no math in public. This event will an amazing investment in your marriage!
I am making white chicken chili today. I’m posting the recipe here as well as a few tips that go with the territory!!
White chicken chili
3 cups cooked chicken
Garlic (6 cloves worth)
3 cans northern beans
40 ounces of chicken broth
1 cup chopped onions
1/3 cup fresh jalapenos, chopped
2 tsp EVOO
2TBS Southwestern seasoning
1/4 cup lime juice
1/4 cup cilantro
Drain all cans of beans, set one aside in bowl. Add garlic to bowl, mash bean mixture together. Allow oil to warm in dutch oven/pot then add onions & jalapenos. Let cook for 4-5 minutes until onions translucent. Add in chicken, bean mix, beans, broth, seasoning and lime juice. Bring to a boil reduce and simmer for 25 minutes. Snip cilantro and stir into chili just before serving. Add cheese and/or avocado as desired.
Portion Fix: 1 red, 1 yellow, 1 blue (if you add cheese and avocado)
Tip #1: Give them the goods. My husband eats what I eat. But I add cheese for him or sometimes crackers or something. That way I’m not cooking twice but I can still stay on the 21 Day Fix.
Tip #2: When you make a recipe, automatically double or triple it every time. When you do, you’ve “meal prepped” lunches or lazy Sunday leftovers! Good job you!!!! =D
Tip #3: Many recipes, like this one, originally called for rotisserie chicken. I’m telling you that’s an option if there IS NOTHING ELSE but it’s loaded with sodium and preservatives so it’s not the best choice. Instead, poach 2-3 chicken breasts and shred them. Much healthier and not difficult. Then I even use my stand mixer to shred them.
Take care of your body so it will take care of you.
Your body has gotten you through a lot in your life, we know that’s true! But, if you want it to keep getting you through, you’ve got to take care of it. By that we mean feed it right, workout, destress, laugh a lot and sleep well. Take care of your body and it will take care of you. None of that comes automatically, you’ve got to plan and be strategic in achieving those aims for your health.
Balance is one of the best ways to maintain vitality as you age. Balance comes in all different shapes and sizes but everyone is capable of improving their balance. Moreover, many folks don’t realize that balance is something you have exercise in order for it to grow as a muscle. And, it will grow as a muscle!
During our small group personal training classes, we focus heavily on core- yes we do serious core exercises every single workout. We also incorporate Yoga and Pilates into our workouts. Finally, we do a lot of moves that require stabilizing muscles to activate which typically incorporate alternating legs or arms!
The reasoning is this: If we have better balance, we can make it to the bathroom, down on the seat, backup and wherever we are going pretty easily.
What are you doing today to help your chances at unassisted bathroom trips for life?
Ideal Balance is The Life Coaching Facility in Navarre, Florida focused on Fitness, Family and Finance. They offer 1-on-1 coaching sessions in person and virtually as well as group coaching, small group personal training and workshops each month. We exist to inject hope and empower people to live the life God created them to live. If you’d like to find out more about working with us, please fill out the contact form below!