Date Your Spouse

This week at Ideal Balance we’re talking about how important it is to date your spouse.

Before you get married you go out on dates, you have fun, you learn all about each other and make memories! It’s fun, hot & heavy, intimate, butterflies and more.

Then, shortly after the wedding bells ring, the business of life can start to creep in. The business of life includes the less fun stuff like bills, jobs, in-laws, carpools and so forth.

If you’re not careful, the business of life can take over. The fun starts to fade and it’s all business.

BUT! You guys were a thing before your marriage was a thing. You guys were a thing before your kids were a thing. You guys were a thing before your house payment was a thing! You were so fun, so cool, so cute together. You guys were a couple of awesome people.

So, we want to date our spouses on purpose. We want to pull that fun & fire back in by intentionally dating each other!

Imagine if everyone was part of a great, strong, fun & playful marriage. How would folks show up in life? What would be different about their moods, their work, their parenting, their everything? What would our communities be like?

Think about a time you’ve gone out, with your spouse, and friends for dinner or to an event. You’re there, you’re talking about music and telling jokes and having fun. How often, just as soon as you get back in the car is it right back to, “Okay who is picking up from sports tomorrow?” or “How are we going to pay to fix the water heater?”

That is the business of life. We don’t keep the fun and exciting part of ourselves alive for our partners. It’s so easy to slip into business partner mode. So, we have to be intentional and date our spouses.

When we’re at home, we’re parenting, choreing, do, do, doing! When we set the time and space, purposefully, then we are able to give the date our full, fun, present energy. We can physically and mentally separate ourselves from the roles we play at home and see each other in that lover’s light.

The DOs & DON’Ts of dating your spouse

  • Have fun
    • Couples who play together stay together. If you’re having fun together, you’re building on that intial bond only the two of your share. As adults, it’s sometimes hard for us to be playful and have fun as a natural part of our day. But you can plan for it! Choose things besides just going to dinner: bowling, mini golf, canoeing, axe throwing, traveling. It can be whatever you guys decide, but make sure FUN is an element.
  • Make memories
    • You have a lot of first together. Let’s keep it that way. We need more memories together, more things that glue us together and give us fun things to laugh and remember.
  • Prioritize it
    • You need to put dating your spouse HIGH up on your budget & calendar priority list. That’s because your marriage is really important, isn’t it? It’s at least as important as dance lessons. Strong, happy marriages equal overall contentment, joy and fulfillment. They also give kiddos a great example to follow. Your marriage is a HIGH value item and dating each other is a way you prove you’re prioritizing your marriage.
  • Dream talk
    • When you first got together, you dreamt together. You dreamed about your future. So, have these discussions together. What does our vision for the future look like? Has it changed? Is it the same? Are we excited? Are we dreaming big?
  • Eat yummy food
    • Food can be very sensual, so let’s be sure whatever way we add that in to the date is fun and sensual! But! Be careful that whatever you do eat won’t hinder post-date activities. Be smart about food. You’re not going to all of this trouble just to be full and grumpy by the time you get home!
  • No distractions
    • Obviously no phones, no kids, no nothing. You need to be able to fully focus on one another.
  • No business talk
    • You can set time aside for kids’ discipline, bills, appointments, honey-do lists another time. NONE of that during your date night.

So there you have it, the why and how of dating your spouse.

Our local Ideal Balance community has the perfect opportunity to date their spouse each month with our Dream Date Night event. This relaxing evening away from home without interruptions allows you to be 100% focused on each other and the life you want to create together. Each month we’ll have a different topic including marriage goals, financial goals, family goals and more.
Add to that the beautiful patio setting with music, lights and beautiful, unique food and you’ve got a recipe for a FANTASTIC date night.
This month we’re so excited to focus on the topic of Finance. Not the stressful, budget kind of focus but the fun, dreaming about your future, your dreams and your financial goals as a couple type of Finance. We’ll learn & dream together and we promise-no math in public. This event will an amazing investment in your marriage!

Dinner Health Recipes

White chicken chili recipe + tips

I am making white chicken chili today. I’m posting the recipe here as well as a few tips that go with the territory!!

White chicken chili


  • 3 cups cooked chicken
  • Garlic (6 cloves worth)
  • 3 cans northern beans
  • 40 ounces of chicken broth
  • 1 cup chopped onions
  • 1/3 cup fresh jalapenos, chopped
  • 2 tsp EVOO
  • 2TBS Southwestern seasoning
  • 1/4 cup lime juice
  • 1/4 cup cilantro
  • Avocado/cheese


Drain all cans of beans, set one aside in bowl. Add garlic to bowl, mash bean mixture together. Allow oil to warm in dutch oven/pot then add onions & jalapenos. Let cook for 4-5 minutes until onions translucent. Add in chicken, bean mix, beans, broth, seasoning and lime juice. Bring to a boil reduce and simmer for 25 minutes. Snip cilantro and stir into chili just before serving. Add cheese and/or avocado as desired.

Portion Fix: 1 red, 1 yellow, 1 blue (if you add cheese and avocado)

Tip #1: Give them the goods. My husband eats what I eat. But I add cheese for him or sometimes crackers or something. That way I’m not cooking twice but I can still stay on the 21 Day Fix.

Tip #2: When you make a recipe, automatically double or triple it every time. When you do, you’ve “meal prepped” lunches or lazy Sunday leftovers! Good job you!!!! =D

Tip #3: Many recipes, like this one, originally called for rotisserie chicken. I’m telling you that’s an option if there IS NOTHING ELSE but it’s loaded with sodium and preservatives so it’s not the best choice. Instead, poach 2-3 chicken breasts and shred them. Much healthier and not difficult. Then I even use my stand mixer to shred them.

Fitness Health

Unassisted Bathroom Trips for Life

We don’t know about you, but we’ve thought long and hard about this oddball topic: we would like the dignity of being able to take ourselves to the bathroom for as long as possible in our older years.

No really, this is something every human desires but possibly not something every human thinks about. So, if we all want to be able to go to the bathroom unassisted, how do we do that?

Take care of your body so it will take care of you.

Your body has gotten you through a lot in your life, we know that’s true! But, if you want it to keep getting you through, you’ve got to take care of it. By that we mean feed it right, workout, destress, laugh a lot and sleep well. Take care of your body and it will take care of you. None of that comes automatically, you’ve got to plan and be strategic in achieving those aims for your health.

Build balance

Balance is one of the best ways to maintain vitality as you age. Balance comes in all different shapes and sizes but everyone is capable of improving their balance. Moreover, many folks don’t realize that balance is something you have exercise in order for it to grow as a muscle. And, it will grow as a muscle!

During our small group personal training classes, we focus heavily on core- yes we do serious core exercises every single workout. We also incorporate Yoga and Pilates into our workouts. Finally, we do a lot of moves that require stabilizing muscles to activate which typically incorporate alternating legs or arms!

  • We call this the 1, 1, 2 press. DWe call this the 1, 1, 2 press and it's a chest/shoulder burner. During this entire exercise, you're holding the weights up in the air. You alternating lowering one, then the other, then both and press both back up. Then, you lower one, the other and both again. In this way, you are constantly having to stabilize the weight up in the air.uring this entire exercise, you're holding the weights up in the air. You alternating lowering one, then the other, then both and press both back up. Then, you lower one, the other and both again. In this way, you are constantly having to stabilize the weight up in the air.
  • Side planks all by themselves are evil. Add in a leg raise or even a leg hold and we're really digging deep. Just be sure your entire body is in alignment, head to shoulder to hip to knee!
  • Performing a one arm row & opposite leg raise in this, the stork stance, is a more advanced way to work on your balance and your strength at the same time!
  • Standing kickbacks can be done at any level. Holding a chair will help you balance, but your feet and legs will still be fighting to keep you upright. Here we've added a band for resistance. The trick to feel this in your booty is to lead with the heel!

The reasoning is this: If we have better balance, we can make it to the bathroom, down on the seat, backup and wherever we are going pretty easily.

What are you doing today to help your chances at unassisted bathroom trips for life?

Ideal Balance is The Life Coaching Facility in Navarre, Florida focused on Fitness, Family and Finance. They offer 1-on-1 coaching sessions in person and virtually as well as group coaching, small group personal training and workshops each month. We exist to inject hope and empower people to live the life God created them to live. If you’d like to find out more about working with us, please fill out the contact form below!


Do you need a digital envelope system?

As certified financial coaches, we teach folks to a budget and then use cash with certain purchases like food, gas and spending money. That cash is taken out of their accounts on payday and put in envelopes according to the budget.

For example, you might get out $400 for groceries, $200 for gas and $100 for spending money. We’d put $400 in the grocery envelope, $200 in the gas envelop and whatever portion of the $100 you want to keep in your wallet in your wallet!

Digital Envelope System

Once those habits are established, we like to help our clients set up a digital envelope system for the other important money categories they have. These accounts act just like the envelopes do at home, but they are storing large amounts of money that are usable when the situation arises. This stage of financial coaching can’t really be adopted until clients are really good at budgeting and telling their money where to go.

Emergency Fund

The first “digital” envelope we set up is the emergency fund. This particular account is one that we like to keep far away, hidden and hard to get to. That being said, by the time we get clients along to a 3-6 month emergency fund, they can usually trust themselves with that large amount of money. That’s because they’ve really seen the fruits of their labor, they’ve had a lot of success and they want to see their savings grow because it just excites them THAT much. *Bonus is to name this account something fun. Our clients have chosen names like *My Name Is No* and *O-S&!% fund.


Next, we help our clients set up a bills-only digital envelope so that they can put the money in there and then bills are drafted automatically. This is the best, most amazing digital envelope account. That’s because once we’ve gone through the five steps to do this, the bills are paid automatically and all you have to do is watch your money work for you. No more stressing about due dates, amounts or anything!

Sinking Funds

Finally, we have clients set up accounts for every sinking fund we’ve established. Most often, they set them set up for Christmas, for a travel fund, a pet fund, a home repair fund, a car repair fund and/or whatever other category they are saving for sinking funds. Within a clients’ budget, we establish the type of sinking funds they’ll need and how much they can afford to put toward them each month. By the time they need the money, they’ve set aside just what they’ll need and it’s right there, available for them, to use as necessary!

Ideal Balance is The Life Coaching Facility in Navarre, Florida focused on Fitness, Family and Finance. They offer 1-on-1 coaching sessions in person and virtually as well as group coaching, small group personal training and workshops each month. We exist to inject hope and empower people to live the life God created them to live. If you’d like to find out more about working with us, please fill out the contact form below!


Make your health habits easier

When it comes to being healthy, we all have goals and ambitions. One of the best tricks we can apply is to make the things we want to do easier to do and the temptations we have harder to do.

So, think about the healthy habits you have or want to develop. Then, problem solve on how to make those easier.

For example, if having healthy shakes is part of your daily health routine, a cabinet like this might do you good. Having the ingredients and tools you need to make those shakes easy to get to and easy to put away will make you much more likely to do it.

On the flip side, if you want to avoid temptations like candy, junk food and other stuff, we’re going to recommend you get them completely out of your house. That way, eating unhealthy stuff is harder to do and therefore, just because you’re human, you’ll do it less.

Another example might be you working out. Setting out your clothes the night before is a great way to encourage that habit. In that way, you’re making it easier to do. Schedule it in your calendar and block that time out, once again, making it easier to do. Adding in a coach or accountability partner will make it harder for you to bail on this healthy habit too.

Drinking water is another healthy habit most of us want to do. Keeping your water bottle clean, nearby and full is the way to make this easier. Become the kind of person who always has their water bottle within reach. Make sure it’s a water bottle you like using and that is easy to use as well as easy to clean. All of these minute details will make developing this habit much more likely. On the flip side, if avoiding sugary drinks is a habit you want to lose, the best first step is to keep them out of your home/office.

Think about your healthy habits and temptations. How can you make the habits easier and temptations harder?

Ideal Balance is The Life Coaching Facility in Navarre, Florida focused on Fitness, Family and Finance. They offer 1-on-1 coaching sessions in person and virtually as well as group coaching, small group personal training and workshops each month. We exist to inject hope and empower people to live the life God created them to live. If you’d like to find out more about working with us, please fill out the contact form below!


Turkey Tacos

Portion-Control Containers: 1 Green, 1 Red, 1 Yellow, 1 tsp.


  • 2 tsp. oil
  • 8 oz. ground turkey
  • 2 tsp. salt-free Mexican seasoning blend
  • 4 corn tortillas
  • 1 cup shredded lettuce
  • 1 cup pico de gallo

Preparation (for two servings):

  1. Heat a pan over medium heat. Add oil, ground turkey, and Mexican seasoning. Cook, stirring frequently, until turkey is no longer pink.
  2. Divide evenly between two meal-prep containers. Serve each portion with 2 corn tortillas topped with ½ cup shredded lettuce and ½ cup pico de gallo.

Tip: To avoid soggy tortillas, keep all ingredients separate until ready to eat.


Spicy Feta Burger

Spicy Feta Burger

Portion-Control Containers: 1 Green, 1 Purple, 1 Red, 1 Blue


  • 8 oz. ground beef
  • Sea salt (or Himalayan salt) and ground black pepper (to taste; optional)
  • Nonstick cooking spray
  • 4 lettuce leaves
  • 1 jalapeño, sliced (optional)
  • ½ cup pico de gallo
  • ½ cup feta (or avocado)
  • 2 small apples, sliced

Preparation (for two servings):

  1. Shape ground beef into two patties; season with salt and pepper (if desired).
  2. Heat medium pan over high heat; when hot, coat with nonstick spray. Place patties in pan and cook 4 to 5 minutes on each side, or until done to your liking. Remove from heat and set aside to cool.
  3. In each meal-prep container, place two lettuce leaves, and top with one patty, jalapeño slices (if desired), ¼ cup pico de gallo, and ¼ cup feta. Serve each evenly with sliced apple.

Tip: You may add finely chopped jalapeño and feta to ground beef before you shape burger patties.


9 Reasons to Use Cash

Cash is one of the top tools that you can use to get your finances in order and win with money. We have 9 reasons to back that up, but we also know there are some myths about using cash that folks believe. We will debunk those in another post soon!

1. It’s a great accountability partner.

Cash is a great accountability partner. Say you’ve got $50 to last the week. As the week goes by you spend $5, then $10, $7 etc. Every time you reach in your wallet or envelope you have a real, honest accountability partner letting you know exactly where you stand on your budget.

2. It gives you more control.

You will feel more control with cash because it’s physically in your hand. You have your money, not the bank or creditors. Your personal spending won’t affect your bank, bills and other stuff as much. Banks made $11 billion in 2019 in overdraft fees. The less you’re in your account making debits, the less you’ll be paying those!

3. You will spend less.

Studies have proven that your brain doesn’t process the pain of losing money as much with a card as it does with cash. Because of this, you automatically spend less with cash. Likewise, when you only have a $20 bill to get the eggs, bananas and bread in the grocery store you know you do the math and make it work. Same situation but with a card will have you less math-concerned and you’re more likely to go over.

4. You can get a discount.

Very often if you present cash as your means of purchase you’ll be able to get a discount. It can also give you leverage to negotiate price!

5. It’s accepted everywhere.

Cash is the most universally accepted form of payment. Not ture with certain cards, right?

6. It helps out small businesses & service workers.

Small businesses pay a fee when you use debit cards or credit cards. Worse yet, sometimes they pass that fee on to you. Bummer either way. Likewise, servers are more likely to get their tips that night if you pay in cash rather than with a card. How nice of you!

7. You’ll improve your relationship with money.

When you pay for things with cash, you have a greater attachment, emotionally, to them. It’s true! A study in the Journal of Consumer research proved it. Moreover, by learning to use cash, you’ll develop a good relationship with money and perhaps start losing some of the baggage and stress you’ve built up over the years. Having cash, though it may not be much, definitely feels different. It feels like you’re not broke, the green proof is in front of you. Remember how you were as a kid when you earned cold, hard cash? Same, just in adultland. Having cash around is the way to start feeling more abundance about money rather than scarcity.

8. You will buy things you can afford and therefore stop running up debt.

Listen, if you’re paying for things with cash you know whether you can afford it. And it turns out cash is 100% debt free. So, using cash will help you if that is a goal you have.

9. You don’t have to ask permission.

So often we look at our bank account before making a debit purchase to make sure we have enough in the account. And when we try to use credit, we have to have our credit run. It’s almost like asking permission to buy something. And it’s not a great feeling, and it can feel a little disheartening or even embarrassing.

Ideal Balance is The Life Coaching Facility in Navarre, Florida focused on Fitness, Family and Finance. They offer 1-on-1 coaching sessions in person and virtually as well as group coaching, small group personal training and workshops each month. We exist to inject hope and empower people to live the life God created them to live. If you’d like to find out more about working with us, please fill out the contact form below!


Creamy Chicken Salad

Makes 4 servings and extra dressing!! The color coded portion control container count is 2 green, 1 red, 1/2 purple, 1/2 blue and 1/2 orange.


  • 3 cups chopped rotisserie chicken breast (boneless / skinless)
  • 1/2 cup chopped green apple
  • 1/2 cup seedless red grapes, cut in half
  • 1/2 cup sliced almonds
  • 2 green onions, sliced
  • 2 Tbsp chopped fresh tarragon
  • 1/4 cup Honey Mustard Dressing (see below)
  • 8 cups shredded romaine lettuce


Combine chicken, apple, grapes, almonds, green onions, tarragon, and Honey Mustard Salad Dressing in a large bowl. Mix well, cover and refrigerate for 2 hours.

Serve 1 1/4 cup Creamy Chicken Salad over 2 cups of romaine lettuce per serving.

Honey Mustard Dressing:

** Serves 8 with 2 Tbsp per serving

** 1 Orange Container

  • 1/2 cup reduced fat plain Greek yogurt
  • 3 Tbsp Dijon mustard, gluten-free
  • 3 Tbsp raw honey
  • 3 Tbsp rice vinegar
  • 1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil
  • Sea Salt to taste (optional)

Directions: Combine yogurt, mustard, honey, and vinegar in a medium bowl and mix well. Slowly add the oil, whisking constantly until well blended.

**Notes: I don’t use rotisserie chicken, I just posh my own chicken breasts and hen shred them using my stand mixer. I also don’t use tarragon or that much yogurt. I’ve even tried it without yogurt and it’s yummy. I have served it in a wrap and it was great!!!


7 Steps to Your Ideal Weight

1. Move.

Start where you’re at. The first thing we want you to do is start moving your body. It doesn’t matter how much or how little “fit” you are, we’re going to get you moving. That may mean intense workouts or it may mean 10 minute walks. We’re going to get you moving, get you in touch with your body. This is key because the sooner you start, the sooner you’ll be sleeping better, your mood will be boosted, you’ll almost automatically start eating better and you’ll be on your way to building a body you’re proud of.

  • Pick an activity with aligned with your current fitness level.
  • Don’t be afraid to start small. (*Tip: Start so small even that it will almost be easier not to do it.)
  • Schedule it on your calendar.
  • Honor that commitment.

2. Reduce.

Right after we get moving, we want to do the work to reduce our temptations & bad habits. At this point, we’re going to eliminate all junk food from your home. This doesn’t mean you can never have it again or eat for fun again. It means we’re going to reduce the temptations in your home. If you have to put on clothes and drive to get the junk food, you’re far less likely to do so.

Some of you might be tempted to keep it for your family. Guess what? They don’t need it either. If it’s the kids we’re talking about, you’re the boss so it’s fine. In our experience kids never lack for junk food as it comes at almost every turn: school, friends’ houses, sports, church, etc. If it’s your significant other, try to keep stuff they enjoy that doesn’t tempt you. Also, try to keep it all together in a bin that you can’t see through and you can’t get to as easily.

  • Clean out pantry, fridge & refrigerator of all junk food.

3. Track.

There’s a famous line we repeat over and over: you can’t measure what you don’t manage. We’re going to agree that this is just the starting point. We’re not going to even try to edit just yet. Instead, at this point, we’re just going to track everything on paper, on purpose. This will be a real eye opener and it will really let us know where we stand and what we have for improvement.

We will track weight and inches and body fat. Some programs do not focus on this, they focus on how you feel or how your clothes fit or some such other indicator. We certainly celebrate and concentrate on those aspects in our program too. But we also look at these numbers because they keep us accountable and they happen to translate to those other things quite nicely. Moreover, we specifically do the work to help you get over the emotions that come with measuring on the scale. Other programs have you avoid those emotions. We are going to work through them and get your mind right about what the scale actually means (*Hint: It has nothing to do with your self-worth).

We’re also going to track your food, water and movement. Again, at this point it’s not really about improving, we just want to get a baseline of where we’re starting. We also want to get all of out numbers out on the table: the calories we’re consuming, the calories we’re using, the gravitational pull we have on Earth.

  • Measure weight, inches & body fat.
  • Begin tracking your food each day.
  • Track your water intake each day.
  • Track how you moved each day.

4. Plan.

This step is where we’re going to really take it up a notch. NOw that you’re used to moving, you’ve reduced temptations and you’ve got a real gauge on your daily habits, we’ can begin to plan better. We will use that data to plan exactly how often and how much you should be exercising. We’ll also know by then more about your exercise habits so we can plan the type and time you should be doing it.

We will also look at what you tracked for your nutrition and go over the healthy foods and meals you love and plan your particular food protocol. We will also plan your water intake goal.

  • Plan your meals.
  • Plan your snacks.
  • Plan your fun food.
  • Plan your workouts.
  • Plan your active life.
  • Plug it all into your schedule.

5. Celebrate.

We are going to celebrate every silly little win along the way. We’re also going to celebrate all the big wins too!

Walked for 20 minutes? Celebrate!

Said no to the cake? Celebrate!

Did a real push-up? Celebrate!

Got all your water in? Celebrate!

Lost 5 pounds? Celebrate!

Worked out 5 times this week? Celebrate!

  • Be mindful of victories & celebrate them intentionally.

6. Monitor. 7. Adjust.

Now that we’re planning / tracking, we’re going to monitor our progress. This is where we start to become really intentional. You see, we might notice the scale goes up for no good reason. Ah! But since you’ve been tracking, you know it actually went up because you ate spaghetti with beef the night before and that bloats you. Interesting.

You might notice that you’re drinking half your body weight in water, but you’re still feeling it’s not enough. We’re going to up the water intake and see if that makes a difference.

You might notice you’re not getting winded or sore as much from your workouts. Now we’ll step up the intensity of your workouts a bit.

All of these things come from intentional monitoring of your body. In fact, this is the concept of listening your body or intuition. Because all of this is truly about you being at your best, we need to be really in touch with your body as we go on. It will give us clues. Moreover, the reason most of us got into the bad shape we’re in is from not listening to our bodies-both physically and emotionally. So, this process is about fixing that.

That’s you’re 7 step process to getting to your Ideal Weight. We call this the fighting weight-similar to a professional wrestler. This is the weight you perform your best at. It’s the weight and fitness level you feel strong and confident, but you’re able to enjoy life (and pizza) too.

If you’re interested in getting help 1-on-1 with this, fill the form out below and we’ll be in touch.