What hasn’t changed?

Last week we coached about trying to balance your thoughts out. Right now it’s easy to focus on the bad, the crazy and the scary that’s going on in the world. It’s not just easy, it’s human and it’s normal. Aiming to get rid of all of those thoughts would not only be impossible, it would also be kind of crazy. Instead, we talked about trying to balance them out with good. So, while we might automatically think, “I am scared” we can intentionally balance that thought out with, “I am scared but I’m pushing through.” Balancing what feels authentic with a way for your brain to focus on something good and/or hopeful is many of our best case scenarios. Another example we gave was “I am running out of money.” This may be true but you can certainly add on using evidence from your past. Maybe you say, “I am running out of money but I am resourceful.” As we said, everyone has evidence in their past of doing hard things and being resourceful. Let’s draw on that now.

Today we want to give you another mental balancing exercise. Right now it’s very easy to focus on what has changed in our world. Our schedules, our economy, our health, our day-to-day, our schools, our jobs, our social life. E-A-S-Y. What we want to invite you to think about today is what has NOT changed. Go through your life and think about what hasn’t changed.

  • The birds haven’t stopped chirping.
  • The sun hasn’t stopped shining.
  • My kids haven’t stopped making me laugh.
  • My favorite book hasn’t changed storylines.
  • Cooking for my family hasn’t stopped bring me joy.
  • My partner hasn’t stopped smelling good.
  • Praying hasn’t stopped making me feel better.
  • My crazy facebook friend hasn’t stopped ranting.

This is a terrific exercise in creating calm and creating gratitude. It also allows us to realize what really matters in life.

Now, the only trick here is that times like these might be magnifying some things that haven’t changed that you may WANT to change. Your budget, your health, your home…if you want some help to change those things, of course that’s what coaching is for. If not, sit back and feel the good! =D

Mindset Planning

How to have a better week

If you’re anything like me, last week wasn’t your best week. I know for me many things went wrong. While it is tempting to just wallow in that for a bit, I decided to take action and do the things I know I need to do to have a good week. So, how do you do that? Here are 5 steps to have a better week.

1. Figure out what went right.

What went right last week? What can you celebrate? What can you duplicate? This will get your brain in the right frame of mind to be positive. It will also give you some much needed clarification.

2. Figure out what went wrong.

Last week might not have been great, but WHY? Letting the nagging feeling rule the day is no productive. Pin down what went wrong, what made you feel less than happy or productive or satisfied.

3. Stop focusing on others.

Much of our frustration comes from trying to control others. You may not think so, but it really turns out to be true. We focus on how others are behaving, reacting, doing or not doing. That brings a lot of frustration and makes us feel powerless because we clearly CANNOT control anything about what others do.

4. Balance the input.

Many times a bad week can mean we had a bad average of bad that went into our brains versus good. Maybe we watched more bad news than normal or listened to more bad attitudes. That can’t always be controlled but what you CAN do is purposefully try to balance the bad with good. Purposefully input GOOD things into your brain whether it’s music, podcasts, books, thoughts or more.

5. Focus on you.

What can you control? What CAN you focus on? In a world where things seem out of control so often, there is much you can focus on in your small sphere of control that will make you feel better, I promise. Download the worksheet to consider your top 10. I’ll give you mine to get your brain juices flowing.

  1. Pray
  2. Read the bible
  3. Journal
  4. Listen to good music during breakfast/drive
  5. Read book / listen to podcast
  6. Exercise
  7. Eat well
  8. Clean or organize something
  9. Skin time
  10. Hug kiddos