Today we want to offer that the one thing that might be missing from your life might be the one thing that could make the biggest difference and be the biggest game changer in your life.
What’s that thing?
Bet you guessed it —> a morning ritual. Well done!
You’ve heard that you need to take self-care time. You know you’re supposed to have quiet time. Oh yeah, don’t forget you’re supposed to exercise. Don’t forget to pray! You should also be reading something great everyday.
The list of all the things you’re supposed to be doing to be an amazing person can seem daunting. Where in the world are you going to find the time?
Well, you’re certainly not going to find it in the middle of the hectic day. You’re probably not going to find it at night when you’re exhausted either.
No, the morning is your best bet. Not only do you more likely have more control over your mornings, you also can make the decision to set the tone for the day by creating a morning ritual.
Why should you have a morning ritual?
There are many things that we know we need to do in order to feel better, to feel less stressed and less anxious. The problem is we don’t do them. That’s where your morning ritual comes in.
Your morning ritual acts as a container to get in most of the things you consider important for you to be the best version of yourself. It acts as a container for you to get in your self-care.
Refusing to take time for yourself in the morning isn’t selfless, it’s selfish.
It also allows you to show up for yourself first so you can show up for others later. You may think you’re being selfless by not taking time for yourself. The truth is if you’re not doing a morning ritual, you are robbing every person and cause you say you care about of the best version of you. Instead, they’re getting maybe the 50% or 60% version of you. So, if it’s hard for you to do things for you, do it for them. (And hire a life coach to work on the first part of that sentence.)
Another objection you might have with a morning ritual is that you’re not a morning person. That’s fine. On one hand, we’ll say put your big girl panties on and get over it. =D On the other hand we will say to start small. Just get up five minutes earlier and do one activity that is going to make you feel better and start your day with intention. Once your brain learns to look forward to this (dopamine hits, anyone?) then you can move to 15 minutes, then maybe a bit more and more if you need it. You can become a morning person by training your brain that it’s fun and worth it to get up earlier. You will begin to enjoy your morning routine AND you will begin to see the effects of doing it in all areas of your life. That will train your brain.
How do you set up a morning ritual?
Okay that was the why. Now let’s talk about the how. You need to figure out what activities are going to make you feel energized and ready for the day. What self-care activities do you know you need to be doing but you’re not? What activities have you wanted to try but just haven’t yet? List these out.
Then you’ll list out the time each activity takes. Next, total the time up. Then work backward from what time you need to leave or be ready to take care of others in the morning. So, if your morning ritual takes 45 minutes and your kids get up at 6am, you’re getting up at 5:15am.
The final step is giving yourself a chance to make this a reality by committing to doing it for at least 30 days. If you hate it by the end, quit. But give yourself the gift of trying it for 30 days.
We have a worksheet that will help you create your morning ritual. You’ll love it because it walks you through all those steps!
PS: If any of this resonated with you, we’d love to work with you 1-on-1. We teach our clients how to build a life they love and change habits slowly to match their goals. In a world with fake quick fixes, we help them adapt a lifestyle that they’ll want to keep. If that resonates with you, please get in touch with the form below!